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A Bisl Torah

Please, face to face


In 2004, Julia Wood, Professor of Communications and Humanities offered a new definition for communication. She deconstructed communication as “…a systemic process in which individuals interact with and through symbols to create and interpret meanings.” In her explanation there is a process of expressing through reaction. Meaning, I say something to you, you interpret what I am saying, your interpretation informs your reaction, and your reaction continues the process of communicating. However, when I say something to you, speaking is only one crumb of the pie. Your interpretation is based on my tone, facial expression, style of dress, whether I am crying or grimacing, the environment we are in, time of day, and much more.

It is critical to pay attention to the ways in which we communicate, this week, next week, and the months that follow. In using our voice, are we aggressively fueling sentiments on Facebook and Instagram or choosing to provide our truths in a way that fosters healthy conversation? Do we hide behind the anonymity of a screen or do we have courage to bring our views into a forum in which you see my face and I see yours? A Covid-world hinders our ability to engage in a discourse in which I acknowledge your humanity. And yet, I believe in our creativity. We are capable of much more than the communication that has transpired thus far.

Chizkuni, a 13th century commentator, explains that it was impossible that God actually spoke with Moses, face to face. After all, we know God doesn’t have a physical face. Rather, Chizkuni suggests, that God made an effort to speak with Moses at his level. A level in which Moses could see, hear, absorb, react and respond.

Whatever our truths, may we learn how to share them face to face, knowing that we have a better chance of building a world of peace if we are willing to see the person with whom this world is shared.

Shabbat Shalom

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